If, like most of us, your Mum's on your back about finding a guy, making it legit and becoming her baby-making understudy, now's the time to lovingly remind her you're single for an actual reason that's now backed by science!
Yeah, there's been some new research in a Sage journal for Social Psychological & Personality Science that is making us feel so much better about being alone. Loving your cats more than people is now a thing.
Basically, they did some research on some undergrads and found that there are two kinds of daters: people with avoidance goals and people with approach goals, both of which directly affect how happy you're feeling in life and would in-turn decide for you which kind of person you want to be - single or dating.
If you've got higher tendency to be someone with avoidance goals, you're more likely to avoid conflict, drama and clashes with bae and keep things are peace - so basically being single and happy is your thing and you're cool with it. If, however, you have higher approach goals, you're more willing to tackle dramas on-board your ship and sort them out, because you're more drawn-to and in need of a relationship in your life. And that's cool, too.
Before you panic about which one you are and whether it's a good thing or not, Yuthika Girme is the lead author and a psychology professor at the University of Auckland and she reckons that neither category is better than the other; they're just different.
Girme says that regardless of which kind of person you are, you have to star by accepting yourself for who you are. "Coupled-up people high in avoidance goals might appreciate that relationship conflicts are inevitable and that dealing with important conflicts can improve relationship quality," Girme says. "Similarly, for single individuals low in avoidance goals, it might be important to realise that single people can lead happy and fulfilling lives. Being single means people can focus on themselves, their personal aspirations and goals, and other important relationships such as relationships with family and friends."
So, there! Being single rocks!